We’ve been pondering what change (large and small; profound and subtle) will come about as a result of the nation’s and the world’s reactions and responses to the quickly spreading Coronavirus. Some countries are already on what is un-affectionately labelled as ‘lock down’. There are some musings that it should be labeled ‘forced time out,’ which is, upon deeper reflection, a pretty healthy label for it. Some of the ‘powers-that-be’ in the US are beginning to label it a ‘shelter at home’ but, regardless of the label, those of us who are complying are in the beginnings of what will surely be a pressure cooker for any relationship: e.g., much (some will speculate that it is creating too much) intense and ceaseless time together. This is naturally going to exacerbate two things: boredom and frustration. Out of boredom will surely come a ‘baby boom’ in nine to twelve months. : ) the frustrations will cause emotional flareups, and those will surely, if not well addressed, cause a spike in divorce rates.
It has already begun. We won’t know about the pregnancies for another month or so, but already several seemingly healthy couples we know are showing signs of being ‘on the rocks’ and a few have even already separated to ‘shelter apart.’ If we (us and our intended audience) can be ‘mindful’ (e.g., care-filled-ly conscious) during this–hopefully short–epoch, we’ll be able to not only lessen those separations and divorces but also enhance the love felt during the activities that may (and surely will) create the next baby boom. The baby boom is inevitable, and we’d love to do our part to make sure that all of those conceptions come from and amidst Love, but we’d also love to help those who want to be-in-love amidst the ‘making’ of love (with or without the goal–or unintended outcome–of conception) more fully enjoy both those ‘intimate living’ activities and each other’s presence within (and before and after) them. As such, some of these blog posts will be about how to communicate verbally (how to create a safe space in which growth, individually and collectively, can happen); some will be about how to ask for, create, and enjoy time apart; and some of them will be about how to create, enjoy, explore, and expand love-filled and abiding physical intimacy.
Be prepared, then, for some very frank talks about the hard facts about the difficulties in intimate relationships; about the fallacies, frailties, and fantasies about love and sex and intimacy; and about the modes and means of physical sexuality. These blogs of ours will be frank and forthright, yet every thought, word, and deed discussed will be presented in Love with GREAT Love, and with the desire that each and all who come to find Love here will join us in these frank but respectful discussions of Love in all it’s forms.
We implore you, please, if you chose to respond to these posts to do so in a kind, positive, supportive and respectful manner. Please honor the uplifting, solutions-oriented, nature of the content of this site. We will also do our best to stay away from any talk about politics, and we implore we you to do the same.